I was sent a video of a phone sex operator a couple of days ago. And I howled when I saw it.
By the way, subscribe to Jason Horton because the rest are at least as funny.
Anyway it got me thinking (and at the end of a summer in Ibiza that takes some doing!) about the difficulty of working in this business and maintaining a private life. In the interests of full disclosure I should say that I did spend a very brief time as a phone sex operator. I found it just too hard to keep a straight face so i have nothing but respect for the people who can.
The point I wanted to make is that – as you may know – while I really enjoy this life and have nothing but respect for most of the people in it, it can be hard to start and maintain relationships.
This industry is a lot more ethical, honest and straightforward than most of the industries and businesses I have worked in. Things in my past like marketing, recruitment, technology, insurance, advertising. You can see why my skill-set suits this job. And why working with professional escorts in Ibiza is much more honest and less seedy!
Having said that, it can be hard to start a relationship and harder to keep it going. The hours are brutal (Imagine running a club in Ibiza and how hard that is. Now imagine running it 24/7 instead of just at night.). Pretty much everything is short notice, as for some reason more clients in Ibiza than anywhere else need to have company right now. 30 minutes is too long to wait! It´s even more manic than with our lovely girlfriends in Marbella. So that is all stressful.
But most girls (and guys) in the business make it far more difficult than it needs to be. I know it´s fiction, but the girl in the video has exactly the right idea with her man. Let him know what you´re doing, be honest, involve him where you can and make it funny.
So many girls say that they can´t tell a man what they do when they first meet as they won´t want to date them. It can be a point. But then the same girls are shocked and appalled when they come clean (or get caught) when the relationship gets serious and find that six months of lying your arse off isn´t a terrifically stable foundation.
So if any of my beautiful and (mainly) intelligent escort girls ask me for advice it´s always the same. If you´re not going to front it up right at the start, don´t go more than three dates before you do. And just be straight about it. It´s a job A very well paid one if you´re working with us. You are selling a set of physical and personality attributes and skills. Like an athlete, magician or taxi driver!
So, tell the truth. And if they´re the right guy for the long term they will work out how to deal with it. And if they aren´t they won´t.